In honor of sexual harassment month (Yes that’s actually a thing) I thought I’d touch on a relatively close topic to this month’s situation of awareness.
Domestic abuse seems to be a taboo topic that friends and families choose to hardly speak up about. Did you know, every 9 seconds a woman in the U.S. is being abused by her partner? On average, 20 women in the U.S. are being abused per hour. This sums up to more than 10 million women being abused annually in the U.S.
I know what you’re thinking, how many times have you heard these statistics about domestic violence? Why don’t the women leave or get help? I cannot answer those questions for you personally but I can bring up another question. Why do people never speak upon men being domestically abused? Stop right there, yes women are not as likely to abuse their spouse but who was talking about heterosexual relationships? Did you know one in seven men in the U.S. are victims of domestic violence, not categorizing whether it’s from men or women abusing.
From the outside looking in, and slight experience from past relationships, men on men IPV (Intimate Partner Violence) is so overlooked it’s not even comical. Men are known to stereotypically show aggression simply because of their title of being a man. Men in this day and age have a standard of showing their aggression whether it’s in the bedroom, or to satisfy their own personal pride and personal issues. It seems as though society thinks it’s okay or acceptable to overlook these IPV crimes with homosexual relationships, simply because they are the same gender. That’s where they are wrong. Relationships are still relationships, regardless of gender. A relationship is built off love, trust and most importantly, RESPECT.
Briefly touching on my personal experiences, I’ve witnessed and slightly been a victim of IPV and micro-aggression physical altercations between your intimate significant other. Not as bad as other brave and courageous public figures have, while coming out and sharing their stories, but definitely a taste of what it could have potentially lead to. I personally have a lot of respect for myself and know when I should walk away from a situation that can further tumble into a ball of emotional and physical trauma. I’ve lost family from this taboo topic and it’s something I hold dear to my heart. Your partner should never be your punching bag because of your unresolved self-esteem and anger issues. Your partner is someone you should cherish, value, uplift, hold dearly (figuratively and literally). So for those of you who believe, “well hit them back” … not every person is has the same capabilities of cruelty as the one perpetuating the physical harm.
I guess what I’m trying to say here is not to bore you with my cliché story, but if someone approaches you with a situation about any form of aggression, DO NOT OVER LOOK IT. Also, I am not pressuring you to put yourself in the middle of any situation, but try your best to tell somebody who can assist in getting help more than you can. You never know how far anybody can go, whether it’s verbal abuse, slight aggression or even the worst of all scenarios.
#StopDomesticViolence #StopIPV #LoveWins.